The concept of being “unfuckwithable,” originates from the founder of MindValley; Vishen Lakihani and refers to a state of inner strength and not giving your energy, time, and/or attention to external opinions and criticisms that do not have value. I determine value to be that which helps you to grow and significantly impacts your personal transformation. I discuss this in more detail with, Rohan Vijay, whom I met through the MindValley community and who is now a good friend of mine, and he explains that this state can be achieved through self-awareness, self-inquiry, and understanding the narratives and stories that we tell ourselves.
In this episode, we discuss intuition, self-awareness, and all things personal growth. Rohan shares a powerful lesson he learned about the importance of self-awareness and breaking free from patterns of blaming and shouting at others without understanding why. He shares how he embarked on a journey of becoming a wise parent to his inner child by shifting his perspective and recognising that there are far more compassionate ways to deal with past situations in our lives that we keep reliving. He calls this the journey of self-forgiveness and self-awareness which has allowed him to become more aware, and conscious, and develop the tools to handle similar situations in a better way.
We expand on the theme of self-awareness and explore the interconnectedness of the human experience and the link between our minds, bodies, and souls. Rohan highlights the role individual narratives, stories, and worldviews have in shaping our perceptions, actions, and behaviours and encourages introspection by asking, “Did I play a role in creating this situation?” He goes on to share the importance of taking responsibility for our own actions and behaviours and having the humility to apologise when necessary, while also acknowledging that it is not our job to force others to change their perspectives or behaviours.
We move on to discussing the importance of having a clear vision for our lives and standing for something, what do you value and why? Rohan explains that when we lack a clear vision, we can be easily pushed around by others and give up our seniority and personal power. This doesn’t mean that with a clear vision and knowing what we stand for, we become assholes, and don’t help or support others; on the contrary.
Oftentimes, those who have a clear vision, and know their core values end up helping more people and having a bigger impact on the world because they know HOW they want to contribute and serve. Rohan reflects on his own experiences of not knowing his values and how it led to anxiety and depression, which it did for me as well. Both of us had times when we had strong inclinations and intentions but disregarded them due to insecurities and doubt.
The significance of recognising and staying true to your values cannot be overestimated even during times when you might feel unsupported in your values. While our perception of a lack of support may be limited, how we feel during these times is often a sign that change is needed. By changing our environment we can become greater aligned with our values and true selves. Rohan encourages the practice of being present and aware, as it allows us to get to the truth of a situation.
When it comes to paying forward our experience, knowledge, and wisdom to help others, we discuss and agree that giving space for others to break their own boundaries and discover their own true nature leads to true empowerment. Empowering others involves helping individuals acknowledge their own values and narratives that they have created for themselves and if they are serving them. By offering support and understanding, we can inspire and encourage personal growth in others. Rohan shares the importance of being aware of our own limitations and biases, and being open to understanding others on a deeper level.
We frame all of this and our entire conversation on the concept of embracing our inner Buddha and the Baddass which is yet another concept from MindValley. The Buddha is simply the reflective, intuitive, deeply connected spiritual master who possesses self-awareness, and enlightenment and the Baddass is the changemaker who challenges and disrupts the status quo to create a better world. Both, are inside of us and once awakened change how we live, work, play, and experience life. You can learn more about The Buddha and the Badass by picking up Vishen Lakihani’s book here – I would highly recommend it.