Why We Overthink Life’s Events And What Human Behaviour Reveals
Each of us has a deep curiosity about why things are the way they are, why they happen, and why we do the things we do. And while this can be to varying degrees, meaning that some of us seek answers more intently than others, our curiosity and desire to seek meaning and understanding remain. […]
Stop Holding Onto Life So Tightly: A Lesson for Insecure Overachievers
Do you grip life so tightly, forcing yourself to show up no matter what, never taking a day off, always moving to the next thing as soon as a task is done or a goal is accomplished? And if you dare enjoy any part of the process or life itself, you ridicule yourself for it […]
How to Understand Your Emotions (Without Labelling Them Good or Bad)
Emotions aren’t good or bad. They just are. They aren’t even inherently positive or negative. And getting into the labelling game isn’t only unhelpful, but not totally accurate, depending on the context. Take fear, for example, which many may see as a negative experience. But when met with a direct threat to our safety and […]
The Skill of Truly Feeling Feelings (Without Reacting or Judging)
Here’s the thing: When we don’t allow ourselves to truly feel feelings, they manifest in alternative ways. This could be… Etc. The list is endless. The skill is to learn to feel our feelings without reacting or casting judgment, i.e. anger emerges, and we judge it as bad, or joy emerges, and we say, oh, […]
How to Create Purpose and Meaning in Life (Without Having It All Figured Out)
Do you ever wonder what the point is? What is the point of this thing called life? What even is life? The Search for Purpose and Meaning These are just some of the questions that often ring loudly in the back of my mind, sometimes louder than others. They all point to purpose, question the […]
False Urgency: Why Everything Feels Urgent But Isn’t
When false urgency arises, it often leads to decisions that we will later regret. But what exactly is it? What exactly is false urgency? What Is False Urgency? False urgency is an artificial, high-stress state where we feel the need to act immediately, when in reality, we don’t. The supposed event, task, or situation in […]
Why “Fixing” Isn’t Helping: The Power of Sitting in the Mud
Whether it’s our mother, brother, sister, father, auntie, uncle, cousin, a great friend, or even a stranger on the street, seeing people, especially our loved ones, upset, distraught, struggling, or dysregulated, triggers a deep urge to help and a desire to end their suffering. The Fix-It Instinct and Why We Default to It We want […]
Why We Sometimes Feel Off; Even When We’re Doing Everything Right
How do you navigate the days when you feel just off? The days when you’re emotionally and mentally dysregulated, and for no obvious reason. You’ve: Feeling Off Despite Doing Everything Right Yet, despite all of this, you still feel just off. I don’t know about you, but I have these days. Days when I feel […]
Why We Can’t Control Life And Why That’s Okay
Life unfolds in mysterious ways. Things happen. How we choose to respond or react is what matters. That’s not to discard responsibility. Or to say we have no influence. The Illusion of Control It is to say we have less control than we think we do, and where we think we have control is often […]
Why People Pleasing Is an Illusion And How to Stop Sitting on the Fence
There are lots of challenges to being a people pleaser. One of them is sitting on the fence. Indecisiveness. Someone asks… Would you like to go to the cinema or bowling? A simple question, wouldn’t you agree? The people pleaser replies… “I don’t mind.” “Or it’s up to you.” “Or either.” Or any other response […]