Why We Don’t Hear What Others Say: How Our Inner Lens Shapes Our World
Here’s an insight you may or may not have considered… We don’t hear what others say. We hear through our lens of the world. This isn’t on purpose. In my experience, it’s an automatic process by default that’s part of the unconscious mind, always playing away in the background but having a profound impact on […]
Living in Your Head Too Much? The Real Cost of Overthinking and How to Break Free
The problem with overthinking is that it keeps us in our heads. We fail to realise the simple but profound truth that life isn’t lived in our head but “out loud”, meaning that it’s lived by taking action, not by ruminating about all the different possibilities that could happen. Why We Spend So Much Time […]
What True Independence Means (and Why It Doesn’t Mean Doing Life Alone)
There’s a growing conversation online about whether we’re becoming too independent as a society. Take lone working, for example, and the growing number of people becoming freelancers and one-person teams, working from their home office, kitchen table, or even the couch in their city apartment, disconnected from fellow humans. The Rise of Independence in Modern […]
3 Pillars of Purpose for a Meaningful Life
Purpose, meaning, and the big question of what we are doing here are all areas I’ve struggled with for most of my young adult life. And, I think most of us do. At least, in some part. The Personal Journey of Purpose It’s worth remembering, though, that the pursuit of purpose and a meaningful life […]
Everything Has a Cost: The Key to Confident Decision-Making
We can’t do everything, at least not all at once. So we have to choose and make decisions. This leaves many of us, myself included, far more often than I’d like to admit, stuck in indecision, wondering what to do for the best. The Hidden Cost of Indecision Being indecisive exists for many reasons: from […]
Change Your Language, Change Your Life
The language we use is a powerful insight into the relationship we have with, and how we view, ourselves. It’s a great indicator of our overall self-esteem, including self-confidence, image and self-worth. Not only that, it affects all of our relationships more than we may realise, because all relationships start with the relationship we have […]
Self-Conscious? Why Personal Growth Is the Key to Worrying Less
Self-conscious… What does it mean to be self-conscious? According to the Cambridge Dictionary, self-conscious means: nervous or uncomfortable because you are worried about what people think about you or your actions. In other words, I like to define it as being in a state where we’re so wrapped up in our own heads, worrying and […]
The Truth About Lies: Why Honesty Is Always the Way
I’ve lied. You’ve lied. We’ve all lied at some point in our lives. And many continue despite the upset, distress, and emotional pain it causes. Yet we justify it to ourselves with self-talk such as: Or any other BS we come up with in our minds. We’ve All Lied. But Why? When in reality, a […]
Finding Purpose in Life: Why the Journey Matters More Than the Destination
For most of my young adult life and twenties, I’ve been trying to figure out: Pretty deep stuff, as you can imagine. 5 Insights I’ve Learned About Purpose While I’m closer to some sort of answer than I was at 17, 18, 19, or 20, I’ve had many insights, such as: And yet… I still […]
3 Morning Habits to Beat Sleep Inertia and Boost Energy All Day
I’m sure that we’ve all woken up kicking our heels, wanting to go back to our warm, comfy bed and have just a few more hours of sleep. When this happens once or twice, now and then, it’s no problem. But when it happens consistently, and patterns start to form, like most aspects of our […]