Whether it’s our mother, brother, sister, father, auntie, uncle, cousin, a great friend, or even a stranger on the street, seeing people, especially our loved ones, upset, distraught, struggling, or dysregulated, triggers a deep urge to help and a desire to end their suffering. The Fix-It Instinct and Why We Default to It We want…

How do you navigate the days when you feel just off? The days when you’re emotionally and mentally dysregulated, and for no obvious reason. You’ve: Feeling Off Despite Doing Everything Right Yet, despite all of this, you still feel just off. I don’t know about you, but I have these days. Days when I feel…

Life unfolds in mysterious ways. Things happen. How we choose to respond or react is what matters. That’s not to discard responsibility. Or to say we have no influence. The Illusion of Control It is to say we have less control than we think we do, and where we think we have control is often…

There are lots of challenges to being a people pleaser. One of them is sitting on the fence. Indecisiveness. Someone asks… Would you like to go to the cinema or bowling? A simple question, wouldn’t you agree? The people pleaser replies… “I don’t mind.” “Or it’s up to you.” “Or either.” Or any other response…

Every year has its ups, downs, tests and tribulations. Every year has its insights and lessons. Here are the top 25 lessons I’ve learned in 2025: 1. We suffer more in our minds than we do in reality. We draw up all sorts of fantasies and situations in our minds, most of which will never…

When the end of the year approaches, this often sparks reflection and goal-setting for most of us. Reflection comes naturally to me. I reflect regularly to identify insights, lessons, trends, and to recognise what has gone well. Goal-setting, on the other hand, well, that’s a challenge… The Hidden Problem with Goal-Setting I’ve often found the…

Finding the right language to describe our emotions is one thing… Communicating them clearly so people understand is another. Our emotions and feelings aren’t easy to navigate, especially when we don’t have the tools or skills. And let’s be honest, society isn’t set up in a way to provide us with either. We learn about…

Happiness is fleeting. It comes and goes. Think of accomplishing an elusive goal; in the moment, we’re full of happiness, joy and elation, but as soon as we reach the peak, it starts to diminish… quicker than a boulder gathering momentum, rolling down a hill. Therefore, we must at least question: Is happiness the goal?…

​​‘We control nothing but influence everything.’ ‘We don’t control what happens to us, only our response.’ ‘Life is to be lived, not controlled.’ These are just three lessons on control that help us remember how little control we actually have, especially in the external world, and if seeking control is actually worth it… Despite our…

​​No matter what endeavour we undertake, there is no such thing as perfectionism. There is just doing the next step, then the next step, then the next step, learning as we go, being adaptable, resilient and consistent along the way. The Illusion of Perfection This lesson took me a long time to understand, and honestly,…